Yep. That's me.
It amazes me how quickly my moods can change(it's no picnic for my fiance either, poor guy).
One minute I love every one and everything and life is amazing and then BAM!!!!
Next minute I literally want to punch everyone in the face.
Or cry.
Depends on the day.
I'm crazy and neurotic. That's that.
I always seem to come up the worst case scenario when I'm in the anger phase. My boyfriend is cheating on me. Someone committed suicide or got in a fatal accident.
Or I just want to hug every one and tell them how much I love them. All these moods in me all the time flipping back and forth from one to the other in a matter of seconds.
Let me tell you, it's exhausting. I feel like I ran a marathon, when in reality it was all in my head.
And I have no idea how to stop it.
Am I bipolar? Maybe I'm just crazy....
Who knows, but...
What the hell is wrong with me?
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
Sunday, October 26, 2014
Quarter Life Crisis
Yep. Pretty that's what I'm going though right now.
I'm 26. I work over 40 hours a week for just over $10 an hour. I make just enough money to cover my gas and monthly bills, with about $3 left over. I'm getting married next year and I would love to move into our own place. Right now we are staying at his parents house. But I can't afford it and he works construction, so some weeks he doesn't have work. I'm buying my car. That's about all I have to show for all the work I do.
Doesn't that just suck? I have no idea what I would like to do with my life. I didn't finish college because it got too expensive and now I have student loans I can't pay for.
I'm stuck. In a rut. With no way out.
I need to figure out what my ladder is so I climb out of this successful.
I'm 26. I work over 40 hours a week for just over $10 an hour. I make just enough money to cover my gas and monthly bills, with about $3 left over. I'm getting married next year and I would love to move into our own place. Right now we are staying at his parents house. But I can't afford it and he works construction, so some weeks he doesn't have work. I'm buying my car. That's about all I have to show for all the work I do.
Doesn't that just suck? I have no idea what I would like to do with my life. I didn't finish college because it got too expensive and now I have student loans I can't pay for.
I'm stuck. In a rut. With no way out.
I need to figure out what my ladder is so I climb out of this successful.
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Whose court is the ball actually in?
You know how sometimes you get so desperate and impatient for something to happen that you push and push and push hoping it will speed things along?
Maybe it's just me, i don't know.
But the end result of my pushing usually always turns out badly.
You'd think I would have learned from my mistakes by now, but sadly I have not.
In a perfect world this would be sorted out by now and things would be awesome.
Yeah...it's not a perfect world.
So instead here I sit in the backlash of my mistakes wondering how I can turn it back around in my favor.
I wanted so badly for things to work out that I forced myself on someone I haven't talked to in 4 years and I'm pretty sure all I did was freak him out. Go me.
Now I get to sit here and wait. Wait to see if me coming back was the right thing or if all he is doing is sitting there laughing at me saying, "Haha yeah right, like I would ever be friends with you again. Pyscho."
I've put myself out there and that was hard. Now there's no response and I have no idea if I'm being tested or if this really isn't going to work out.
Is the ball still in my court? Or does he having it dangling over my head like a guillotine ready to chop my head off?
Maybe it's just me, i don't know.
But the end result of my pushing usually always turns out badly.
You'd think I would have learned from my mistakes by now, but sadly I have not.
In a perfect world this would be sorted out by now and things would be awesome.
Yeah...it's not a perfect world.
So instead here I sit in the backlash of my mistakes wondering how I can turn it back around in my favor.
I wanted so badly for things to work out that I forced myself on someone I haven't talked to in 4 years and I'm pretty sure all I did was freak him out. Go me.
Now I get to sit here and wait. Wait to see if me coming back was the right thing or if all he is doing is sitting there laughing at me saying, "Haha yeah right, like I would ever be friends with you again. Pyscho."
I've put myself out there and that was hard. Now there's no response and I have no idea if I'm being tested or if this really isn't going to work out.
Is the ball still in my court? Or does he having it dangling over my head like a guillotine ready to chop my head off?
The Demise of My Words
Sometimes holding back what I need to say is for the best.
Does it mean I want to?
No.
Does it mean I like it?
Hell no.
But to spare people's feelings sometimes it's better.
I would much rather just avoid that fight.
But sitting there listening to the things she says about him and their situation makes me so angry i just want to grab her and shake and scream in her face "JUST SEND IN THE PAPERS ALREADY!!"
I know she would never listen to me though. No one does, even when all I want is what is going to be best for them in the long run.
He hit me twice. He headbutted her in the eye. They are still married. He lives across the country now as of last month. Doesn't that seem a bit twisted? Sure does to me.
I know the only reason she has not sent in the papers is because of the vow she made to God. Which I completely understand. But now they are living separate lives in separate states. They are free to see other people. Try to figure themselves out again. Even though, if they were to get back together it would be a loveless marriage. Sure they love each other. They were together over 4 years, but there is too much animosity between them now. Too much resentment. Too much anger. She's too free-spirited and hes too controlling. Even now he is still trying to tell her who she can and can't see. He wants to speak to her everyday like they are still together.
A recovering, abusive alcoholic. He went to rehab after he was arrested for hurting her and all he did was trade alcohol for pills. Then after rehab he traded it for other stuff. He needs a crutch or he can't stand on his own. She is one of his crutches. It's never ending. His attitude too. Oh man...hes prideful, competitive, has to be the best at everything, and has to prove himself to all the other men. Why? Who knows. Compensation, maybe.
I've only seen him twice since last November and in those times I have not seen a change in him. There is so much I know, so much I've seen that she knows nothing about or doesn't believe. I've seen the worst sides of the sober him. He is not good for her at all. I wish she could see that she deserves so much more than being stuck in a marriage without the actual marriage part. She's beautiful and amazing and she deserves a guy who will treat her like a queen. Let her be independent. Go hiking with her. Take care of her. She deserves all that and more.
But to save our friendship, I have to keep quiet even though that is the last thing I want to do.
And the worst part is that he is my fiance's best friend.
Does it mean I want to?
No.
Does it mean I like it?
Hell no.
But to spare people's feelings sometimes it's better.
I would much rather just avoid that fight.
But sitting there listening to the things she says about him and their situation makes me so angry i just want to grab her and shake and scream in her face "JUST SEND IN THE PAPERS ALREADY!!"
I know she would never listen to me though. No one does, even when all I want is what is going to be best for them in the long run.
He hit me twice. He headbutted her in the eye. They are still married. He lives across the country now as of last month. Doesn't that seem a bit twisted? Sure does to me.
I know the only reason she has not sent in the papers is because of the vow she made to God. Which I completely understand. But now they are living separate lives in separate states. They are free to see other people. Try to figure themselves out again. Even though, if they were to get back together it would be a loveless marriage. Sure they love each other. They were together over 4 years, but there is too much animosity between them now. Too much resentment. Too much anger. She's too free-spirited and hes too controlling. Even now he is still trying to tell her who she can and can't see. He wants to speak to her everyday like they are still together.
A recovering, abusive alcoholic. He went to rehab after he was arrested for hurting her and all he did was trade alcohol for pills. Then after rehab he traded it for other stuff. He needs a crutch or he can't stand on his own. She is one of his crutches. It's never ending. His attitude too. Oh man...hes prideful, competitive, has to be the best at everything, and has to prove himself to all the other men. Why? Who knows. Compensation, maybe.
I've only seen him twice since last November and in those times I have not seen a change in him. There is so much I know, so much I've seen that she knows nothing about or doesn't believe. I've seen the worst sides of the sober him. He is not good for her at all. I wish she could see that she deserves so much more than being stuck in a marriage without the actual marriage part. She's beautiful and amazing and she deserves a guy who will treat her like a queen. Let her be independent. Go hiking with her. Take care of her. She deserves all that and more.
But to save our friendship, I have to keep quiet even though that is the last thing I want to do.
And the worst part is that he is my fiance's best friend.
Faults and Insecurities.
I'm not perfect.
No one is.
Not even the people who think and act like they are.
We're all human, we all make mistakes, we have have things that bother us.
Like me, for example, I'm an incredibly jealous person when it comes to my fiance. I didn't used to be before him, but now, oh man girls better watch it. I've let this insecurity get into my head and manipulate my thoughts to the point where it shows in our relationship. And that's not right. That's something I have to work on.
I'm opinionated, I like things I want them and get irritated when someone tries to help me. I care way too much about people, even, people who could drop me like yesterday's news and walk away without a glance back. I'm broken hearted and loving. I tend to st walked all over because I just want to help everyone and I want everyone to be happy.
I have a funny nose. Its got a bump in the bridge. I try not to look too hard at it. I'm gaining weight. My 26 year old body can't handle the junk foods I ate as a teenager. I actually have to work out now. It's so much work.
I have 4 tattoos. I don't think any one of them is perfect and guess what? I don't care. I didn't get them to have them be perfect, I got them to tell a story, an imperfect story.
Embrace your insecurities and faults but don't let them define you. Don't let them make you bitter and angry or become a pompous asshole. Let them make you stronger. Let them make you into the person you want to be. Let them be yout motivation to be an amazing person who does amazing things. Because in the end your insecurities and faults aren't going to matter. You can't take then with you when you die. You can't take your body with you. It all stays here buried in the ground.
Make a mark on this earth before you leave it.
No one is.
Not even the people who think and act like they are.
We're all human, we all make mistakes, we have have things that bother us.
Like me, for example, I'm an incredibly jealous person when it comes to my fiance. I didn't used to be before him, but now, oh man girls better watch it. I've let this insecurity get into my head and manipulate my thoughts to the point where it shows in our relationship. And that's not right. That's something I have to work on.
I'm opinionated, I like things I want them and get irritated when someone tries to help me. I care way too much about people, even, people who could drop me like yesterday's news and walk away without a glance back. I'm broken hearted and loving. I tend to st walked all over because I just want to help everyone and I want everyone to be happy.
I have a funny nose. Its got a bump in the bridge. I try not to look too hard at it. I'm gaining weight. My 26 year old body can't handle the junk foods I ate as a teenager. I actually have to work out now. It's so much work.
I have 4 tattoos. I don't think any one of them is perfect and guess what? I don't care. I didn't get them to have them be perfect, I got them to tell a story, an imperfect story.
Embrace your insecurities and faults but don't let them define you. Don't let them make you bitter and angry or become a pompous asshole. Let them make you stronger. Let them make you into the person you want to be. Let them be yout motivation to be an amazing person who does amazing things. Because in the end your insecurities and faults aren't going to matter. You can't take then with you when you die. You can't take your body with you. It all stays here buried in the ground.
Make a mark on this earth before you leave it.
Wednesday, October 22, 2014
I'm not okay.
One thing I've noticed about grief is that everyone experiences it differently.
My dad passed away of liver failure on August 14th of this year.
My parents were married 27 years.
My mom and I are kind of the same in our grief. We carry it all inside because we don't want to burden people. But she still cries every night when she's alone.
My sister on the other hand had to take time off work because she kept breaking down at work.
I drink more than I used to. I don't get drunk every night or even once a month but I'll have a beer or two. I tear up at work almost everyday because I have too much time alone to think.
But I don't say this to people.
I don't tell them that thinking about my dad being gone I feel like I'm drowning. I can't breathe. I fill my days with too many distractions so I dint have to think.
I can never get anything done because I get too discouraged before the end of the project.
Except laundry, suddenly I've become very good at doing my laundry.
But how do I get over my grief?
Not really something anyone can answer...
Because you never get over it...eventually it just gets a little easier to get through each day.
My dad passed away of liver failure on August 14th of this year.
My parents were married 27 years.
My mom and I are kind of the same in our grief. We carry it all inside because we don't want to burden people. But she still cries every night when she's alone.
My sister on the other hand had to take time off work because she kept breaking down at work.
I drink more than I used to. I don't get drunk every night or even once a month but I'll have a beer or two. I tear up at work almost everyday because I have too much time alone to think.
But I don't say this to people.
I don't tell them that thinking about my dad being gone I feel like I'm drowning. I can't breathe. I fill my days with too many distractions so I dint have to think.
I can never get anything done because I get too discouraged before the end of the project.
Except laundry, suddenly I've become very good at doing my laundry.
But how do I get over my grief?
Not really something anyone can answer...
Because you never get over it...eventually it just gets a little easier to get through each day.
Weddings.
I'm getting married.
It's a scary yet thrilling thought.
I have been thinking about my wedding since I was a little girl.
I had everything planned out. It was going to be huge and beautiful.
But now...
Everything has changed. A big wedding no longer seems important. And who the hell is going to walk me down the aisle???
With my dad gone all I want is the people closest to me there because no one else really matters. The wedding isn't for them. Its for me and Matt.
I'm going to disappoint a lot of people that want to be there but screw them I'm doing this the way I want with the people I want.
Not having my dad there to walk me down the aisle has discouraged me to a point where I just don't care about what people think about it anymore. Besides I'll have a reception for the rest if them.
But now planning it....that's an even harder topic to think about...I,know it needs to happen soon so we can plan a budget and save but...I'm still not,over the death of my dad...and every time I think about planning...I can't breathe...
Soon, hopefully soon, I'll be able to think about it without wanting to break down...
Because I love Matthew with all my heart and planning this day for us means the world to me.
It's a scary yet thrilling thought.
I have been thinking about my wedding since I was a little girl.
I had everything planned out. It was going to be huge and beautiful.
But now...
Everything has changed. A big wedding no longer seems important. And who the hell is going to walk me down the aisle???
With my dad gone all I want is the people closest to me there because no one else really matters. The wedding isn't for them. Its for me and Matt.
I'm going to disappoint a lot of people that want to be there but screw them I'm doing this the way I want with the people I want.
Not having my dad there to walk me down the aisle has discouraged me to a point where I just don't care about what people think about it anymore. Besides I'll have a reception for the rest if them.
But now planning it....that's an even harder topic to think about...I,know it needs to happen soon so we can plan a budget and save but...I'm still not,over the death of my dad...and every time I think about planning...I can't breathe...
Soon, hopefully soon, I'll be able to think about it without wanting to break down...
Because I love Matthew with all my heart and planning this day for us means the world to me.
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
Insanity.
I've gone insane. Or at least that's what it feels like. Nothing feels right or real anymore. I've become desperate for things I have no control over. My mind is constantly screaming at me that I'm an idiot. I don't deserve anyone or anything. Or everything seems small and insignificant. Its like my brain has permanent pms. I don't know how to stop it. Its growing and growing. Its grabbed hold of my fragile mind and it's being twisted and transformed into something ugly and disgusting. I fear it will eat me whole.
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